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December 11th / 13th, 2009

"Tiger’s Big Drive (and why it matters)"

For anyone who says Tiger Woods’ car crash is a victimless crime, and that what happened between him and his wife is none of our business, I have two words for you: Phil Hartman. In 1988, the multi talented SNL comedian was murdered by his wife, who then turned the gun on herself. The incident took two lives, and orphaned two others.

We don’t know for certain if domestic violence was involved in the Woods case, but I don’t believe that Tiger’s wife Elin took a 9-iron to the windows of his Escalade because she wanted to extract him from the car. What we do know is that Tiger has had extra marital affairs, and that Elin wasn’t happy about it. Speculation is that Elin launched into a tirade about one of her husband’s mistresses, causing Tiger to flee the house barefoot at 2:30 in the morning, get into his car, and drive it into a fire hydrant and a tree. We’re also not clear about whether Elin chased Woods with the golf club, or if she had anything to do with the blood on his lip. Details are sketchy, but the circumstances and Tiger’s refusal to cooperate with police, indicate more than just a desire for privacy. The Woods’ marriage is clearly in crisis, and if any form of domestic violence was involved by or on either spouse, then it is anything but a private matter. Here’s why.

According to menweb.org, 1.5 million women and 835,000 men are victims of domestic violence each year. And while men abusers tend to inflict more physical damage, women abusers can be just as lethal. So much so, that, here in America, a man is battered by his spouse every 38 seconds, and that battery includes physical, mental, and emotional abuse.

No doubt we have made great strides in dealing with domestic violence against women, as evidenced by the fact that more wives are coming forward to report such incidents. But we as a society have done nothing to encourage men to report similar abuses. That’s because laws are written mainly by men, and men don’t want to admit that they can be abused by a woman. Still, these domestic abuses occur, and, if left unreported, may escalate into more serious crimes. It is undeniable, for example, that the single most dangerous call for a policeman to respond to is one involving domestic violence. Moreover, by ignoring or covering up such disputes, we are also putting another population at risk. According to the National Family Violence Legislative Resource Center, domestic abuse victimizes children of the marriage. Just witnessing violent arguments between parents can damage the children, and can shape their behavior for later life. And of course, when domestic violence escalates, children can be hurt physically as well as emotionally.

Washington Post columnist Kathleen Parker wrote, “the notion that Woods owes America an explanation is based only on the fact that he is a celebrity”.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Any citizen, Tiger included, should always be forthcoming in these kinds of situations, if for no other reason than to give the proper authorities an opportunity to assess not just the incident itself, but how it might impact on the family going forward.

I hope that reports of Elin slapping or scratching Tiger are not true, and that she didn’t smash his car window out of anger (although Lord knows, her response would have been understandable given Tiger’s propensity for bedding other women). In any event, full disclosure with authorities might have triggered court ordered therapy and anger management classes, either of which might prevent future domestic disturbances.

True enough, a heated argument between husband and wife can sometimes be healthy. But it can also be an indicator that violence is just around the corner. This time, Elin Wood might have reacted to Tiger’s cheating by yelling, scratching, or swinging a golf club at a car window. But what happens if Tiger cheats again? No one is saying Elin Woods would snap, but if we write off last week’s incident as a private matter with no consequences, we may be writing off a bigger problem, that of domestic violence, and the devastating effect it can have on families and communities. And I’m not just talking about Elin’s alleged violent reaction to her husband’s indiscretions. Earlier this year, Tiger reacted angrily at a bad shot, and flung his driver into the gallery, nearly striking a spectator. It wasn’t the first such incident, and thus far, the spoiled superstar has been lucky that no one has been seriously injured by his tantrums. In that regard, he is just as capable of domestic violence as is a scorned wife.

For now, Tiger needs to keep his putter in his pants, apologize to his wife, and insist they attend marital counseling together. It’s time for them to either grow up or grow apart. I just hope they figure it out before someone in the gallery really gets hurt.