
Over the past few years I’ve written several columns about Transgenderism, and I must confess that some of the nastiest emails I’ve ever received have come from Trans advocates who misunderstood my intent. In short, I have no problem with an 18-year-old transitioning to another gender, but I do have a problem with parents who encourage and enable that same transition in a small child.
It seems not a week goes by that we don’t hear about another publicity-seeking mother who brags about letting her 10-year-old boy wear dresses to school. In fact, these stories have become so commonplace that I’ve started to tune them out, that is until I heard about “Libby” Gonzales.
“Libby” has become the erstwhile poster child for those who oppose the controversial Texas bathroom bill. Similar to North Carolina’s HB2, the Texas bill professes to be about privacy rights and, if passed by both chambers, would prohibit Transgender persons from using public restrooms unless they use the facility that corresponds to their biological sex.
“Libby”, a biological boy, is only 7 years old, but her parents, Rachel and Frank, say that the child identified as a girl by age three. Rachel recalled the moment of truth for CNN. While visiting a toy store four years ago, Rachel said to her son, “You can pick out anything you want.” “Libby” selected a fairy costume with pink skirt and wings. Said “Libby” to her mom, “This is what I want.” From that point forward, Mr. and Mrs. Gonzales enabled their son’s alleged transgender tendencies.
Stories like those are a media staple these days, but what doesn’t get much attention are legitimate studies and experts who say that many parents are misguided, and are doing harm to their children by helping them transition too early. Dr. Paul McHugh, former psychiatrist in chief at Johns Hopkins Hospital, told CNSNews.com that young children who act in conflict with their biological sex, suffer a mental “disorder of assumption.” McHugh also cites studies by Vanderbilt University and London’s Portman Clinic which found that 70% to 80% of children who express transgender feelings, “spontaneously lose those feelings” over time.
That view is echoed by Dr. Ken Zucker, head of the Gender Identity Service at the Center for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto. Dr. Zucker told the Globe & Mail’s Margaret Wente, “About three fourths of little kids who have issues with their gender – boys who want to be princesses, girls who want to throw their dresses in the garbage – will be comfortable with it by adolescence…or grow up to be gay or bi.” Says Wente, “That’s why Dr. Zucker takes a watch-and-wait approach, and even advises parents of princessy 6-year-olds to say, ‘You’re not a girl, you’re a boy.’” Unfortunately you won’t hear those words coming out of Rachel Gonzales’ mouth, or from most of the attention-seeking parents who love to trot their child out to the media at every opportunity. Why, then, are we hearing about so many transgender children? Dr. Alice Dreger, a bioethicist at Northwestern University’s school of medicine, and a staunch advocate for Transgender rights, told the Globe and Mail, “The pendulum has swung too far. Parents who encourage their kids to change gender are socially rewarded as wonderful and accepting, while parents who try to take it slow, are seen as unaccepting, lacking in affection, and conservative.”
I’m neither a doctor nor a parent, but I have been a little boy, and experience tells me that a child’s utterances and desires are mercurial in nature. One day Johnny wants to be a fireman, the next day a cowboy. One day Suzy wants to be a veterinarian, the next day she wants to be an astronaut. A good parent takes those imaginings with a grain of salt, and rolls with the punches. She doesn’t rush out and send her 7-year-old to flight school at NASA. In like manner, if a little girl wants to dress like a cowboy, the parent shouldn’t tell the child that she’s a boy.
Opponents of the Texas bathroom bill say that it will stigmatize transgender youth, and even put them in danger. But Dr. McHugh says the greater danger to gender dysphoric youth is for their parents to push them into a transgender lifestyle too soon. For example, McHugh cites a new study that shows the suicide rate among transgender youth who go on to have re-assignment surgery, is twenty times higher than the suicide rate among the non-transgender population.
In short, parents of children who show an interest in gender-conflicting activities and clothing, should just take a deep breath and cool it for a few more years. Says Dr. Dreger, “You get the sense that what we have is not so much a rational approach to a psychosocial issue, as a radical ideological experiment.” Perhaps the Globe & Mail’s Wente says it best, “Maybe we’re manufacturing more problems than we’re solving. If we really want to help people, we should remember the old rule: First, do no harm.





























Posted August 22, 2017 By Triad TodayHard Time Doesn’t Always Mean the Same Thing
Don’t do the crime, if you can’t do the time.” It’s an old familiar phrase to fans of TV police dramas, and a stark warning to all would-be criminals to think twice before doing something bad. But people don’t always heed that warning. Nevertheless, when they get caught, there is a reasonable expectation that the punishment will fit their crime. Unfortunately, judges and juries don’t always adhere to that expectation.
Sometimes, sentences are too light. Take for instance the Triad man who several years ago decided to go bar hopping, get sloppy drunk, refuse a cab ride home, and then get behind the wheel of his car. Moments later he drove onto a sidewalk and struck a pedestrian, dragging his victim a hundred yards before realizing what he’d done. The man died and the driver got off with time served (about a year) plus community service. I’m sorry, but when you deliberately get drunk, deliberately drive a car, and kill someone, that’s no accident, it’s murder, and you should go to prison for life.
Then there was the 2013 case in Billings, Montana in which a male teacher raped his 17-year-old female student. The girl was so distraught that she committed suicide. The judge sentenced the teacher to 30 days in jail. In justifying his ruling, judge Todd Baugh said that the victim was, “older than her chronological age”, and was, “in control of the situation” when she was raped. As appalling as that verdict was, it is not unusual. There are 90,000 rapes reported each year in the United States, but according to the Rape Abuse & Incest National Network, only 3 out of every 100 rapists receive jail time.
But just as some judges are too lenient, others are too harsh. This is particularly true when it comes to handing down sentences for possession and cultivation of marijuana. A kid with no criminal record who gets caught with several ounces of pot can go to jail for several years, and if he happens to have 100 or more marijuana plants on his property, he can receive 40 years in prison. I’m not condoning the use of pot, but increasingly the country is moving toward legalization, and creating special drug courts to advocate for rehab, so handing down lengthy prison sentences for possession seems inappropriate.
Speaking of inappropriate sentencing, I am baffled by the verdicts in two recent, but unrelated cases. The first one involves a Massachusetts man who committed suicide. Conrad Roy, age 18, was extremely depressed and kept telling his girlfriend, 20-year-old Michelle Carter, that he intended to kill himself. For whatever the reason, Ms. Carter repeatedly texted Mr. Roy, encouraging him to go through with his suicidal plans. Eventually he did, and Carter was arrested and tried for manslaughter. Last month she was sentenced to two and a half years in prison. No matter whether the girlfriend was sick, evil, or just displayed bad judgement, the fact is that she did not kill Conrad Roy. In fact, she was miles away when he took his own life. Carter may belong in a mental hospital, but I can’t see how sending her to prison is justified. In any event, it was an unusual case and one wonders how it would have been adjudicated in another venue.
The other case that makes me scratch my head involves Jennifer Caswell, a 31-year-old teacher from Oklahoma. Ms. Caswell had consensual sex with her 15-year-old male student. The boy’s parents said that once the incident became public, their son was humiliated, so last week the judge sentenced Ms. Caswell to a minimum 10 years in prison, and ordered her to pay the boy $1 million dollars. No one condones what the teacher did, but she doesn’t deserve to be locked up for ten years, or have her wages garnished well into the next millennium. A more appropriate punishment would have been to give her a probationary sentence and ban her from taking any job in which she might come in contact with children.
The point is that we are in dire need of more concise laws which specify appropriate sentencing for all crimes, and which apply consistently to every locality in the nation. Until we get that, then going to court is a crap shoot. The question is, how much longer are we willing to accept the roll of the dice?