Having a long-time interest in ACC sports, I recall vividly watching the 1978 Gator Bowl in which the Clemson Tigers faced Big Ten powerhouse Ohio State, coached by the legendary Woody Hayes. With about two minutes remaining in the game, OSU was poised to score and take the lead when the Buckeye quarterback threw an interception. The recipient of that errant throw was Clemson’s Charlie Bauman, who eluded a number of tackles before getting knocked down out of bounds along the OSU sideline. As Bauman got to his feet, Hayes punched him in the throat and continued the beating until he was pulled away. Hayes was later fired for the incident. Well, that was then, and this is now. Back then players, coaches, and fans did lots of macho stuff like fighting and spitting, but thank goodness we’re more civilized today. NOT! If anything, incidents of bad behavior at all levels of youth sports are far worse and far more frequent than ever before.
Last month, 38-year-old Daniel Fazio, coach of a youth football team in Connecticut, shoved an opposing player to the ground. The player was all of 7 years old.
That same week, federal civil rights charges were filed against the football coach at Ursuline High School in Youngstown, Ohio. He was charged with allowing hazing and assault of his own players during a football camping trip, then covering it up. As it turns out, that same coach was also accused of abusive behavior at his previous coaching job, including threatening to burn down the home of one of his players.
Also, last month, a Rhode Island High School coach was sentenced to probation for having his players strip naked so he could perform a hands-on inspection for body fat. Although that perverse behavior didn’t result in any physical harm to the players, it was abuse, nonetheless.
None of this comes as a surprise to researchers at UNCG and Stanford, who earlier this year released the results of a joint study on the health and wellness of college-age athletes. They concluded that one in five coaches are abusive to the kids in their charge. For mathematically challenged individuals such as myself, that means 20% of coaches inflict physical or emotional damage on their players.
OK, so much for coaches, now let’s turn to parents and fans. In October of 2023, the coach of a youth football team in St. Louis was shot four times by a parent who was angry that his son wasn’t getting enough playing time. USA Today’s Stephen Borelli reported a number of similar incidents that same year in Florida, Indiana, Mississippi, and California.
In February of this year, a Seattle dad was arrested for shoving two ice hockey referees to the ground for calls they made against his son. The man was 38 years old, and the volunteer refs he assaulted were 12 and 14 years old.
Increasingly, volunteers who officiate youth games are frequent targets of parental violence, so much so that there is now a nationwide shortage of men and women who want to referee youth sports. This is backed up by a report from the National Association of Sports Officials, in which 50% of all referees and umpires feel unsafe while doing their job.
And that brings me to the players themselves.
Last week, North Carolina A&T football coach Shawn Gibbs dropped one of his players from the team for squirting water at the opposing coach in a game against N.C. Central. Gibbs referred to the incident as an “issue with team culture.”
Team culture is also a problem at Smith High School, where two recent games had to be called off early due to violence.
Back in August, while competing against Northwest Cabarrus in the Mount Tabor football jamboree, Smith players got into two separate fights along the Northwest sideline. Then, last month, in a game against High Point Andrews, a Smith player punched a referee in the head. Following that incident, Que Tucker, commissioner of the N.C. High School Athletic Association, issued a press release saying, “A concerning rise in ejections related to unsportsmanlike behavior this year undermines the values of education-based athletics.”
I agree with Tucker’s rather obvious conclusion, but I doubt that isolated and individual suspensions of players and coaches are going to change the current culture of violence in youth sports. Certainly, fans and parents who assault players, coaches, and referees can be dealt with by the courts, but I fear that the only way to break the cycle of on-field violence is to severely penalize entire programs. In the case of Smith High School, it might be time to suspend the remainder of their football season altogether.
In explaining the rise in bad behavior among players, coaches, and fans involved with youth sports, Todd Nelson, a member of the N.Y. State Public High School Athletic Association, told USA Today, “We’ve lost some decorum in our society.” Nelson is correct, and we have social media and vitriolic elected officials to blame. Ten years ago, you never would have seen a grown woman take a home run ball away from a child. You also didn’t used to see as much road rage, and political debates used to be more civil. Folks today seem to be more empowered to feel more entitled, and that’s just not a good formula for how we should treat one another.
The one thing all sports have in common is that participants must follow a specific set of rules. Too often, though, the one rule they forget to follow is the golden one.



























Posted October 7, 2025 By Triad TodayRemembering John Masius: A Principled Scribe
In St. Elsewhere, a doctor’s wife is killed in an accident, and he is left to raise his autistic son, who seldom speaks. In Dolphin’s Cove, a man’s wife dies, and his daughter is so traumatized that she cannot speak. In the original pilot for Touched by an Angel, the lead character has died in an accident and becomes an angel whose first assignment is to care for an autistic girl who won’t speak. In Dead Like Me, the Grim Reaper takes up residence in Seattle. In Providence, a plastic surgeon’s dead mother appears in every episode, and in the premier episode of HawthoRNe, a divorced nurse tries to prevent a stage four cancer patient from committing suicide.
Over a period of about 40 years, these compelling stories about dealing with death and disability came from the heart and heartbreak of the same man, my friend John Masius, one of Hollywood’s most talented and decorated storytellers. John died on Sept. 13 at the age of 75 following a year-long battle with ALS. He is survived by a remarkable body of work, a remarkable ex-wife, and three remarkable children.
Born in the suburbs of New York City, John displayed a talent for writing early on, yet never enjoyed the process, telling me, “Writing’s very difficult for me. It’s very hard. I don’t jump at the prospect of doing it, like homework. For me, it’s like having an exam paper due.” John attended Penn, then moved west and graduated from UCLA with, of all things, an M.B.A. He waited tables at an L.A. restaurant to make ends meet, where one day he happened to serve Bruce Paltrow, then the producer of The White Shadow for MTM and CBS. Paltrow hired John to be a gopher, and years later promoted him to writer/producer on Shadow and St. Elsewhere.
I first got to know John (“Maysh” to his friends) when I was writing a series of articles about St. Elsewhere, and then when I interviewed him for the first volume of my “TV Creators” series of books. He also appeared on a panel that I moderated in 2000 on “Women in Drama” for the Television Academy, which featured the actresses and creators of several new primetime series headlined by women. I particularly wanted John to participate because it was his groundbreaking show Providence which launched a new era of TV dramas for the 21st century, starring women in the lead role.
Maysh was a complex man of strong principles who didn’t suffer fools well, but sometimes his principles put him at odds with those in power. That’s what happened with Touched by an Angel. John and his wife, Ellen Bry (an actress and ensemble star in St. Elsewhere), had three children—a daughter and two sons, both of whom were diagnosed with autism. While interviewing him for my book, Maysh told me, “At that time I was pretty angry at God, and I still don’t really understand what kind of God does terrible things to small kids. The other thing I couldn’t handle was people, in their urge to comfort us, would say, ‘God doesn’t give you more than you can handle,’ which Ellen and I found incredibly disturbing.”
Ellen’s and John’s struggle to cope was an impetus for Touched by an Angel, where in the pilot episode, angel Monica (Roma Downey), who had died in the 1920’s was now comforting her terminally ill, 80-year-old “daughter” who she had saved seven decades earlier. Monica pleads with the Angel of Death to end her daughter’s suffering, but he refuses, saying, “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle,” to which Monica replies, “That’s a lot of crap.” Executives at CBS felt that Monica’s retort was too dark and told John to remove that line of dialogue. Maysh refused, his pilot never aired, and he was fired from the series.
Several years later John resurrected his career when he created Providence for NBC, followed by HawthoRNe for TNT, both of which were well received by audiences and critics alike. And though Maysh told me, “critically acclaimed doesn’t pay the mortgage,” he was, nevertheless, richly rewarded by his peers and admirers, picking up numerous honors including two Emmys, a Peabody, the Humanitas Prize, a Writers Guild award, and several People’s Choice awards.
Over the years Maysh and I kept in touch by email and phone, but the last time I saw him in person was on the set of HawthoRNe, where he greeted my wife Pam and me warmly and with his trademark impish smile. As I think of that day, I recall his response to a question I had asked him during our conversations for “TV Creators.”
Jim: Suppose there was no such thing as on-screen credits for TV shows. How would someone know they had just watched a John Masius show?
John: They’d get some laughs and probably be moved. They’d also be twisted up a little bit emotionally. They’d be manipulated because I would have fu#ked with their heads. [laughs]
Rest in peace, my perverse and principled friend.