
Earlier this month, Major League Baseball suspended Philadelphia Phillies pitcher Jonathan Papelbon for seven games because he grabbed his crotch and made an obscene gesture to booing fans. That same week, upon learning that Minnesota running back Adrian Peterson had used a large switch to bloody his four-year-old son’s back, legs, buttocks, face, and scrotum, the Vikings suspended their star for just one game. And so, we all learned an important lesson from the world of professional sports: grabbing your crotch is a much more serious offense than abusing someone else’s.
The Peterson case followed the discovery of a surveillance video showing Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice punching out his fiancée in an elevator, and it immediately preceded news of Arizona Cardinals RB Jonathan Dwyer head-butting his wife, and throwing a shoe at his 17-month-old baby. Meanwhile Greg Hardy and Ray MacDonald were still allowed to play for the Panthers and the 49ers respectively, even though both men had been involved in assaulting women. It has been a bad month for the NFL, whose management and team owners demonstrated a total lack of sensitivity about domestic violence, and an unwillingness to do anything about the problem. The Ravens eventually fired Rice, while the Vikings and Cardinals finally got around to telling their abusive running backs to stay home and collect millions of dollars for doing nothing.
Aside from the disturbing nature of spousal and child abuse in and unto itself, there are a number of collateral issues which should be of concern as well, because they only serve to delay, impede, and prevent any short-term punitive action or long term substantive reform. Those are: greed, denial, and enabling. First is greed. In the beginning, Vikings owners appeared to be taking the appropriate action by sitting Peterson for their game against the New England Patriots. But when the Pats gave Minnesota a severe beating, those same owners reversed field and said Peterson could return for the next game. Former NFL player and coach, now ESPN analyst Herm Edwards said it best, “Winning games has become more important than doing the right thing.” In addition, most of the teams involved with the scandals only did the right thing under threat of losing corporate sponsors. That kind of greedy mentality defies common decency, and reveals an operating procedure that is devoid of empathy for victims of abuse.
Next is denial. For decades now, both league and team officials have acted as though domestic violence didn’t exist. During NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell’s first eight years in office, there have been nearly 60 cases of proven domestic violence, yet those offenses netted a total of only 13 suspended games. Meanwhile, Vikings owners were in a different kind of denial. During one press conference last week, they suggested that what Peterson did might not qualify as child abuse, so they were waiting to see what the courts ruled. The Daily Show‘s Jon Stewart responded to that kind of arrogance and ignorance by offering one piece of simple advice, “You can’t do to a four-year-old child what you’re not allowed to do to a 300-pound lineman.”
Of course, society has been in denial about domestic abuse too. When we all saw the first video of Ray Rice dragging his fiancée out of the elevator, there was no public outcry. That changed when the complete video surfaced, showing Rice’s knockout punch. Same with Adrian Peterson’s crime. There was no uproar over his admission of corporally punishing his toddler, but then photos were made public, showing the bloody and bruised body of the little boy, and all of a sudden, everyone was appalled. In this viral video world of ours, it seems that we have to see a problem before we will admit that there IS a problem.
Finally, we as a society are guilty of enabling abusers, especially athletes who commit violent acts. After serving only a year in prison for torturing, burning, and murdering dogs, Michael Vick was hailed as a reformed hero, and paid millions of dollars to throw a football. His jersey became the biggest seller in the country, and most people forgave and forgot. Why? Because poor Michael revealed that he grew up with dog fighting and didn’t know any better.
Fast forward to Peterson who last week said that one of his high school coaches used to paddle him with a board. Translation? Adrian’s actions toward his son are understandable. Meanwhile, former NFL coach Tony Dungy excused Peterson’s abusive behavior as a cultural phenomena. And NBA legend Charles Barkley played the race card by implying that if what Peterson did is a crime, then every southern black parent should be in jail because they all hit their children. Newsflash Sir Charles, child abuse is a pervasive, racially blind problem.
According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, over 550,000 children are physically or sexually abused every year, and the Tennyson Center for Children says 80 percent of kids who die from abuse are under the age of four. Moreover, of those who survive their beatings, 30 percent of abused children will go on to abuse their own children. “Excusing this abuse as regional and cultural is how other Americans used to defend having eight-year old boys working in coal mines six days a week, or how people in the South used to defend slavery and lynching,” said ESPN’s Keith Olbermann.
The question is, why are so many infants and children beaten by their parents? Perhaps the answer lies in a 2013 Nielsen survey that showed that four out of five parents believe spanking is appropriate. Another reason is that corporal punishment is legal in all 50 states. Of course, each state has its own threshold for what constitutes abuse, but their guidelines are open to interpretation and tough to enforce. According to TIME.com, in Texas, abuse only exists when punishment “results in substantive harm to the child.” In Louisiana you can beat your child, so long as you don’t “seriously endanger their health.” And the state of Maine allows beatings so long as it results in “no more than transient discomfort.”
It’s easy to see why 39 other countries have banned all forms of corporal punishment, which begs the question, why does America still allow it?
We need to push for a federal ban on corporal punishment while the NFL scandals are still fresh in our easily distracted minds. Meanwhile, the league must work closely with colleges to require sensitivity training for all male athletes, so that there are no excuses for violence against women. Finally, punishment for collegiate and pro athletes who commit domestic violence must be swift and severe. No more one-game suspensions for punching a woman unconscious, or for bloodying a toddler.
Athletes are not the only men who physically abuse family members, but right now their crimes are front and center of a debate that must give rise to reform.
Football is still a beloved sport, but we can’t play games with domestic violence any longer.






























Posted October 1, 2014 By Triad TodaySchool of the Arts Weaves a Tangled Web(site)
The University of North Carolina School of the Arts is famous for creating high drama on stage and in film, but now they’ve created some drama behind the scenes. Last Friday a press release of sorts appeared in the Winston-Salem Journal announcing that UNCSA had contracted with a Chicago-based company to design a new website for the university. The firm, mStoner, Inc., is to be paid $430,000 for the design and for digital communication services. That contract begs two important questions. How is UNCSA able to spend $430,000 to design a website, and why aren’t they spending that money locally or within the State?
First, let’s tackle the money part. According to HigherEducationWorks.org, North Carolina’s public universities have experienced $500 million in budget cuts since the recession, and that includes significant cuts in need-based aid for students. It also includes $20 million in recent management flexibility cuts, of which UNCSA is not exempt. Also, last August when UNCSA was told its budget was being slashed by an additional $333,621, University spokesperson Lauren Whitaker told the Winston-Salem Journal they avoided layoffs “by reducing funds that would have been available…to purchase technology.” This is the same university that has complained about state budget cuts, and who supports and benefits from film companies coming here and spending their money. Yet now UNCSA is handing over $430,000 to a company with no ties to the Triad or to the state. “Kind of ironic, isn’t it?” said Will Ragsdale of the Winston-Salem-based Mitre Agency, one of over a dozen North Carolina firms who bid on the UNCSA project.
And what about those North Carolina design companies who were passed over by UNCSA? I spent several hours on the phone Friday afternoon speaking with a half dozen firms in the Triad and Triangle areas. I wanted to get their take on UNCSA’s decision to outsource web work to an Illinois-based company. I also spoke with Ward Caldwell, vice provost and project manager at UNCSA who was most cooperative in explaining and defending his methodology.
It should be noted that mStoner does excellent work and has specialized in college websites. “MStoner’s experience in education can’t be underestimated,” Caldwell told me. “It was not obvious to us that other companies in [North Carolina] had the capabilities.”
“That’s ridiculous,” said Ragsdale. “There are tons of people who could do the work, so why not do business in the state of North Carolina?” Another local design executive who asked to remain anonymous, concurred with Ragsdale, saying, “There are multiple firms in North Carolina who use the same technology as mStoner, several of them are here in the Triad, and there are twice as many in Raleigh.”
Doug Barton, owner of the award-winning Trone Brand Energy advertising agency located in High Point is one of those qualified firms. “We definitely could have done the (UNCSA) project. In fact, we made it to the finals and presented how we would do it and what we would do. There were some short-term lead times, but it was very doable,” said Barton.
Raleigh-based VisionPoint Marketing was also a finalist for the UNCSA project. CEO Diane Kuehn told me “We were capable of doing the job, and our bid was $40,000 less than mStoner’s.” Meanwhile, another Triad design company executive told me they underbid mStoner by $80,000.
Caldwell defended UNCSA’s decision to hire a more expensive Chicago company over all other bidders, even though budgets are tight, and cost was one of the five criteria factored into the judging process. The other four criteria were an ability to design a high quality, innovative and functional website; the ability to design a website that takes advantage of the unique visual and moving images component of the University’s five art schools; an understanding of the project goals; and an ability to deliver the site on schedule. But those are very standard criteria which any number of North Carolina-based companies could meet, and have done so for hundreds of satisfied clients. The decision to go out-of-state was particularly disappointing to Ragsdale, whose agency has done work for UNCSA in the past. “We are a brand design company, and we’ve helped revitalize and dimensionalize the University’s brand. It seems we would have been involved at some level in this project,” said Ragsdale.
UNCSA’s evaluation process was perfectly legal, but that doesn’t make it right. For a taxpayer-supported institution to pass over local, tax-paying, qualified design companies, and to make such a large expenditure in the midst of a budget crunch, is a major public relations blunder, and an insult to North Carolina entrepreneurs.
“Clearly UNCSA does not value local talent,” one design executive told me. “All things being equal, the work should stay in-state,” said Diane Kuehn. Trone’s Doug Barton agrees. “I definitely believe for those type of assignments they should keep it within the state, assuming the resources in the state are capable of doing the work. Just like the Lottery. They’re required to keep their work in the state unless there’s no resource in the state to do the work. I don’t think this should be any different. If the North Carolina Departments of Tourism and Commerce are treated that way, I don’t understand why this would be treated any different. UNCSA is predominantly funded with our taxes, so I don’t see why they get treated any differently. It should function in the same way, and I don’t understand why the decision was made.”
According to last week’s announcement, mStoner is just beginning to meet with folks on campus to determine what the website should include, which probably means no substantive work has begun. If so, then I would think that the governor would suggest to UNCSA’s newly hired chancellor that he put a hold on the web project until an investigation is made to determine exactly why the job didn’t go to a qualified company in North Carolina. At the very least, UNCSA should be instructed to favor in-state vendors going forward.
As news of the web debacle surfaced last Friday, Chancellor Lindsay Bierman was making his first report to UNCSA’s full Board of Trustees. In it, he set forth his goals and objectives for the University, which included joining with the Winston-Salem Alliance to promote “economic and entrepreneurial development in the region.” Last time I checked, Chicago is not in our region, and the decision to spend $430,000 out-of-state, rather than with in-state companies, runs counter to his stated objectives. The chancellor needs to re-think the University’s web contract, or else lose credibility with the very entrepreneurs he seeks to promote.